Like my ex, who seems to think I divorced him for the hell of it! They do not have any memory of the harm or hurt they caused, and what profit is there in telling them? None that I could ever see.

Deb, what I find refreshing about your article is the kindness and gentility you write about your mom when it's obvious she hurt you several times and may not have been the most attentive mother. Another writer in the same situation would write as if she was an abusive ogre. I love how you saw her love for you right through the times it may not have been evident. It takes a confident, strong woman to put what you have into words.