Lila….you sound like me in this comment. One minute trying to figure it out, the next minute saying what the HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? It’s a bouncing ball. I can’t tell you how many times she’s been ready to leave him and changed her mind. Each time I was ready to help. I never thought of incest. OMG. I am going to bring that up today to my daughter. I really appreciate you taking the time to write your comment. You put a ton of heart and thought into it. These comments are making me realize why I wrote that article in the first place… I have no one to talk to about it. It’s not exactly something you bring up to friends. Friends with their perfect children and me with my flawed ones. It’s embarrassing. Her father is dead. On here I can get good advice (also get reamed pretty bad) from a variety of voices. I realize there are groups for support. I’ve gone to al Anon for years. DV support group? I need to find one. And I will definitely follow your advice. Do not give out any names. Not until I really believe some entity can help. Thank you.