Love this. I can't wait to read more. I'm hoping I learn something although I know you are writing for a younger crowd. I don't think I'm anything special, but I always get asked why I'm single. Well, I was married for 29 years to a guy that became an alcoholic after 25. I felt discarded and unloved, and we got divorced. Not to mention I lost almost everything I owned. That was six years ago. He wanted so badly to reunite, but I was hesitant because who wants to jump from the frying pan into the fire? Last summer, he got a girlfriend for the first time and totally dissed me behind my back. He kept coming over and playing me. Then walked out in August and never came back—such a coward. Never told me why. But I fell apart. I missed him. I was falling back in love with him. Felt I screwed up. Regretted the divorce and never dreamt he'd leave me. He came back to me head over heels in October, we professed our love, and I apologized for being too fearful of remarrying him since it was almost two years he stayed sober. We picked up where we left off about remarriage. He acted weird, though, and I was on guard after what he did to me. That was wise. It turned out he was engaged to her the whole time, unbeknownst to anyone. Soon after seeing me again, he got his 4th DUI and now sits in jail. He only communicates with her. I think she can have him. She knows about all the lies he told her but still hangs around. She never knew he was drinking. I think she's desperate.

But can I find anyone else at age 68? It's hard, no matter how confident I am in myself. What amess. Sorry for the lengthy comment! Your article sparked this in me.