Many people have no idea. Sadly, those of us who do often end up falling for someone we find out has a totally different Idea of "love." I feel bad reading articles like this, Jenny. There is so much pain and self-doubt that accompanies what you went through, and it takes quite a while to recover. Then there are people like Zeke.....replace one with another quickly. No heart or feelings at all. I don't know the answer because if you start every relationship wary of being crapped on, how can you show love? Vicious cycle.