Marco, they are going by things she has told them about you that are probably misperceived actions and lies. She wants everyone to take sides; obviously, they see no fault in her. It makes it worse to know you are being slammed. It was the only way my ex could get anyone to think ill of me, and it mostly didn't work, possibly because he was making all the bad choices and ended up in jail for 6 months after he cut me off.