My daughter is heavy after going from 150 pounds in high school to 250 pounds after grad school. I am not sure how much it bothers her, but when we discuss any aspect of it, I know this will be her for the rest of her life. Her father was obese, and she has accepted it as an inherited body type. She does not overeat. She exercises way more than I do. She is just who she is. I rarely think of her as "fat". I don't use that word.