My ex did not go after anything when we split up. At this time, he is poor. He gets social security, but I doubt it's very much. He "boards" in a house with his "girlfriend"?? Not sure of their status. He is a great carpenter and knows how to do so much, so he's working off some of his rent. Either way, he was sure we'd get back together eventually, but he never stopped drinking, so it never happened, and he can't come back on me now.