My ex did something fun with my girls about once a month. Often it seemed like he spent a lot of money on them because he didn't buy anything else....Like school clothes, band instruments, food, lots of hot water for a ton of bubble baths, nor pay the plumber to clean out the drains from all their long hair going down it. They adored him for that once a month splurge. I never said a thing. One out of 3 daughters still worship him even though he died 5 years ago. She has no children of her own and I think she just doesn't get it. Real parents have a tough job. It's not all fun.