My first husband and I split up when we were young. He was big but not fat. He was a very handsome guy. But after high school and all the sports he played he gained weight. He did not repulse me. J was stocky when I met him even though he said he was average in his profile. I let that go. He was counting calories and stated he was the smallest he's ever been. A bit under 300 pounds. As we've been dating he stopped counting calories, eats a lot of cakes and candy, cooks with tons of oil and says he goes to the YMCA but has gotten bigger since I met him. I was attracted at first but after I (and many of my friends) have seen his butt crack and he's stopped losing weight I lost interest knowing it was not an honest effort but something to tell me to make him sound good. He will gain weight the longer I am with him and there's so much more. A big part of my attraction to a man is his personality and demeanor. This guys is not a good match for me. No sense of humor, it's all about him, and a lax listener.