My oldest daughter has been on and off (mostly on) illegal substances for over 29 years. after 10 years she got married and had 2 beautiful children. She did great, led her AA group, and headed a committee in AA. After 10 years she was gone again. She didn't raise her children after that. Her husband became sole parent and he then became an alcoholic. My grandkids are 15 and 20 now and they comment they are the products of 2 addicts. They are great kids..go figure. I digress. My point is those 2 fantastic children were not REASON enough to get clean. She's tried over 8 rehabs over the years and the only successful one was during her first pregnancy. She does not WANT to be an addict. She is not HAPPY. I dont talk about her to anyone anymore. If they ask, I give them her phone number and many look very salty when I do that. I don't care. I am so tired of being judged, looked down upon, and blamed for something even she says is not my fault. She even says the statute of limitations has run out on her blaming anyone but herself. She started to date and fell for the wrong guy right out of high school. He ended up in prison and she ended up an addict. The sadness is something I will never get used to.