My son tends to remind me of the times I failed, although at the time and even years after he had said it was a good move for me to be the way I was. Now, especially since his dad and I are a "no go" to reunite since last October, he is even more critical of me. How could things that "taught me to be a man" now be I was being a mean or bad mom? It's a cycle, and I pray it passes for both of us. It will. You are very analytical, and that's an asset for you.