One guy was a doctor OB/GYN (in residency but older than me who loved kids and was thrilled I had three girls). The other guy was an accountant. My ex had zip. No money, lived with some friends, not even a car. But I fell hard for him. My first husband sucked at sex, and my second was superb. I was 30 and never had good sex, so it was a factor in my falling in love with him. No wonder my family was trying so hard to discourage the union. The other two guys were mature and accomplished; my ex looked like he was still a teen. My ex did love the hell out of me and treated me like gold. But, that doctor....that would have been my next choice if my ex had not committed to me after being an asshole for a while. I was pretty hot back then, even with three kids. Well, looking back just gives you a sore neck!