Reading this, all I thought of was my husband and his alcoholism. I said all those same things to him. Finally, the ultimate threat..." I want a divorce." He didn't even try to quit and went on to have two more OVI's and a suicide attempt. That was over six years ago, and today he's been sober for two years. I think. I saw him three weeks ago after hearing from him every day (He always wants to get back together) when he left my house and have not heard a word from him since. I can only think he's relapsed. Your husband is where he is in life, and I hate to say, but that is probably it. I'm so sorry, Sherry :-(