She didn't change her wardrobe when she gained 100lbs in 2 years. Ladies she worked with made her some pull-on skirts with elastic waists. That was a huge hint. They also told her her belly could not be showing. She worked in an office at a state college. She did not want to acknowledge her weight. She has never lost that weight, and her self-esteem dropped. She pretends that's not the case, but I feel it. Her belly still hangs out sometimes, too. When we went to Florida at Thanksgiving, she had a two-piece bathing suit. Her belly is very large. I never said a word because if she didn't care, I didn't. Later, when we looked at the pictures, she regretted wearing it, and I told her, "Who Cares? You looked cute!" I meant it. That was when she liked me. We had a great relaxing time in Florida. That reminded me of you saying your dad's birthday is coming. I think it's sweet that you call him daddy still. My daughter used to yell excitedly when I called her at college, MOMMY!". I loved that.