She may not be an alcoholic. Don't they usually sneak around and drink alone and try to hide it? My ex did. I never saw him with a beer bottle in hand. But, if she doesn't cut back she will fall into that rabbit hole soon enough. You can't fix her and I am not sure about the enabling but if it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to be around her that is your choice. You have your own life, child, and things you dont have to tolerate. Alcoholics have to accept losing family and friends because that is what happens when they need their fix more than they need you.