Shefali, I was thinking of financially good for him. The both of you combining incomes and giving him the freedom to care for you and miss work. There's nothing I fear more than being ill and having no one that cares enough to help me through. I am so lonely now but if that happens I may as well die.

I'm sorry if the financial thing sounds bad. If I was Ill and my ex could care for me I would marry him so he could use my money as he saw fit and also quit his job.

I look at life differently sometimes. Maybe not in a romantic way.