Sorry, Ruby but this is what happens. My first husband and I tried to go to both family's homes on Thanksgiving and we just couldn't pull it off. I was still a kid at 19 and expected to spend all holidays with MY family. His mom blamed me and my mom for being selfish and we never got along too well. After we split up his mom and I got along great. It was a mess. But, his mom was right. We should have worked it out yearly.

I only saw 2 daughters today. I ate at ones house and the other came over later. The 2 don't get along. My oldest daughter and my son and his wife went somewhere else. It kills me to not have my family together anymore. I contributed to that by getting divorce. Something else to feel guilty about. You have the right attitude. They make their own decisions when they grow up.