Sounds like there are no winners here. Many of us are mature and have learned to live with accumulated baggage and live with open minds. I did think most men I went out with from online had big hang ups. One guy had his eyelids lifted and also his scrotum. Then he bragged about his last 2 younger girlfriends. I had no desire to go near such a guy. He told me all of this in a 15 minute first phone call!! I still wonder where the good guys are? 😊