Thank you. After hearing that so often, I stopped talking to anyone about my pain and became very depressed. I spoke to counselors, but they did not know my ex. I wanted to talk to my sisters and friends because they knew him. They all said the same thing. Move on. He was never good enough for you. Are they crazy or just mean? They are telling me I spent 29 years being a fool. I know better. I loved him, and he was a good man to me, until the end. I took Xanax, and my doctor would only give me six at a time, so I broke them in half.