Thanks, KimRae. I'm glad to be semi-back! I have been thinking long and hard about the prospect of marriage. The homes we live in already look like an issue. He has a 4,000+ square foot home, and I hate it. It's dated and has a poor layout. I have a condo. It's spacious but can't hold all his "junk". He still has pictures all over his house with his deceased wife. I told him it might be time to change it, but he hasn't. I gave him a 5x7 framed picture of us, and he set it in his kitchen along with all the cards I'd sent him. That tells me something. Does he want to be married because he's used to it? My ex was so horrid to me at the end I would love to change my last name. But I don't need to get married to do that. However, I am not as financially set as he is, so there would be an advantage to me. And if we marry, I want a different home from where either of us lives now. It's a toss-up, but I'll know if it's right to do when and if the time comes. Thanks for your wisdom, though. You are in the majority.