That must be a sad life to have an affair. to me, that is the ultimate betrayal. One reason I would never take my ex back. We were both very adamant about sex and never cheating. We agreed it was over if that ever happened. When he lied and deceived me and got engaged to another woman behind my back, I assumed he had slept with her. I can't see him getting engaged without having sex first. But he was very lonely and may have wanted to marry her just to have someone because I made demands about his drinking and had standards I was not going to compromise on. That's bad enough right there, but he's living with her since getting out of jail. I think it's safe to assume he's had sex. She told me she would never sleep with him unless he married her (believe me, I have no idea why she decided I needed to know that) because she has high morals. I doubt that was true. Or if true then, over a year later, after living together, I imagine she's relented on that stance.