That was a long marriage for you. Where do you suppose it broke down? I don't blame my ex entirely for our divorce because I contributed to our communication issue for many years. That's what happened. He was losing his business and couldn't talk to me about it. Probably because he knew the financial repercussions would affect me greatly-and, they did. He took nothing in our divorce. Not half of my retirement (I don't think he even knew I had one) and not half the 401K.He was entitled to those had he wanted to take them. He came out reasonably well because I talked a friend into letting him live in her dad's house that died, for free. He lived there six years and moved out a few weeks ago when he went back to jail for 90 days. He made himself poor with his DUIs and would have dragged me down with him. I came from an upper middle-class family and he came from poor lower class family. He was always trying to live up to my family and it was good for him and very positive. His family considered me a snob and was probably happy when we divorced although they ignore him. But, I loved him like crazy and he took good care of me until he didn't. Its hard to imagine spending so much of your life with someone and then never speaking to them again. It's just weird!