That was our plan, too. But when alcohol becomes the first love of a spouse, the other one is left hanging, and that's hard to come back from. Each counselor we saw, I told the same thing....what if he relapses? And I go through all the grief and then forgive and forget the past and then it happens all over 3x. Too much. And throw a suicide attempt in there, too. I imagine more than one infidelity in a marriage would be a dealbreaker.