That's an excellent approach. I'm going there Sunday and there will be cake and ice cream for her birthday but I'm going to take some little oranges (cuties) because she loved them last time she was at my place. I'll tell her they taste so good and to hide them so no one else tries to eat them. She will like that. A secret between us.

But, I will never say she's heavy, chunky, chubby, or fat!! I know my boundaries. Honestly, I did not appreciate being called skinny, string bean, or Twiggy as a kid. But I guess that was acceptable for my aunts, uncles, and grandparents to call me.