The bad thing is we were working on reuniting this past year, and I wanted him to be sober for at least two years. But, last summer, someone paid attention to him for the first time since our divorce, and he fell for it. It's flattering, especially when I was so hesitant and pretty cold to him. He left me and promptly fell apart, lost his job, and relapsed. But he asked her to marry him somewhere along the line, so he must have had high hopes. He came to me wanting to resume our relationship, and I found out later he had been engaged to her at that time. He told me he dated her, but there were too many red flags and different lifestyles. She found out I was in the picture and broke the engagement. All lies. I fell for it for a while, but he backed off again. I realized he was drinking. Why do I want to resume life with an alcoholic? I have not made a life for myself because I focused on him again this past year. I'm back to square one with all the pain of splitting up again.