The problem here is she cannot be the center of attention forever. It has been 28 years. My other children resent me for all the time and love I have put into her while they feel neglected. They have been good children and I have let them down because of my choices concerning her. This is what I want to let go of. Let go of her so I can have better relationships with my other 3 children. It has to happen. After 28 years I can see this is the only solution. But, that does not man it will be easy. The all consuming selfishness of the addict is not fair for the children who need me as their mother. I pray its not too late for me to make some amends. I always thought I could save her but that is not going to happen. She is 48.