There are telltale signs. After a few years of marriage, he lost his love for both his wives and takes no blame for his behavior toward them. My mom always said it takes two to tango. Just the fact that he blames them for everything is squirrelly. I will tread lightly. He has been different this week, and because I am open with him, he may be onto the fact that I am seeing the real guy he is. One thing I know for sure, he is not going to change.