There's a fine line between making the child most important and one parent getting what they want more often than the other. Breaking the law at the same time. Some children may feel the easier going of the 2 does not care as much. In your case, as mean as it sounds, I hope the new "partner" finds a new partner. Probably not since it sounds like she and her brood are live-ins with your ex and perhaps he is supporting them. here is where an attorney has the clout. The ex cannot do what he wants knowing your attorney will slap him with court orders and new initiatives. Taylor, I think the world of you, and there is no question you are extremely smart. This man is breaking the law to the detriment of your mother/child relationship and I hate seeing this happen to you. I'm sorry this is so lengthy.