Things that came about when she was in grad school started her on a downward spiral. She gained 100lbs, broke up with her long-time boyfriend, and life became much more difficult. But, we were still close. I don't think she's happy with her husband, her health, and her life. But I can't help her if she rejects me. She has no girlfriends she hangs out with. That has been the case for many years. She knows she's abrasive and quickly loses a friend when she gains one. That was one reason she and I did so much together.