This is a dynamic many don't realize. The WHOLE FAMILY changes when one is in crisis. Be it mental illness, physical illness, or drug abuse....it is not just the child but the parents and siblings whose lives change as well. My family is still in a headspin over my daughter's 28 years of addiction. As the mom, you try to hold everyone together but it's not always successful. Two of my children choose to avoid family gatherings. One says the toxic environment with her sister there is too much. She wants a "normal" life. I admire you, Lisa, for all the research and effort and love you put into this one child for the love of your whole family.