This is a fantastic talent, Conni, and one you developed out of necessity. I can't imagine the loss you felt when your husband fell over. Edna Saint Vincent Millay said it well. In life...It's the same damn things over and over. I think some people call your gift "Keeping a cool head." That's you :-) I saw a lot of death in my days as a nurse, and my usual comment was, "I don't know what to say. I can't imagine how hard this is for you."