This is a good point, Ruby. My parents had so many miserable friends who stayed married, had affairs, despised each other....it was obvious. Lots of time you just can't win or lose in a divorce. You both have to let go and find a new life. It's easier now because women work and have their own money. They are freer and don't have to tolerate BS like in the old days when they were dependent on a man. I'm not saying it's good...I know it's not in my case. 29 years is still hard to give up on 6 years later.