This is how I feel about my daughter. Her 3 year old runs all over the house with food and drink and sticky would be an understatement! She was raised in a clean, tidy, home. I could never live that way but it’s not my home. Mental illness is a big part of her life too. Yet she’s my favorite child. She’s so good to me. When she can be but often goes weeks without contacting me. He’s an idiot.