We don't have a cafeteria and my new condo will be as nice as the one I have now. However, if it comes to where I need assisted living I will have to move up the ladder to another facility located in a different place. At least I'll have somewhere to go. I have not heard of anyone dying here in the 2 years I've been looking at homes here. I think I would know since I have friends here. There are 108 ranch homes so someone is bound to die once in a while but not any more than if they didn't live here. Half the people are my age or younger and many still work. It's just maintenance-free living and I want that lifestyle. I can't depend on my kids to take care of me or my money. They are way too busy and I don't want to leave it up to chance. It sounds like your mom sacrificed a lot for your dad and that's noble of her.