What if I already made the first mistake? Last October he walked out of my house one afternoon and cut me off. Then he came back a month later all apologetic. He said he had a girlfriend he didn't click with (but dumped me for) and I had known nothing about her until then. Then I killed him with kindness. (what a fool). This was my husband of 29 years, and we were very much in love at one time, so this was hard as hell to try and let go. We had been talking about reuniting. I wouldn't because he had 3 DUIs, and that's why we split in the first place. I was fearful he would relapse and I would be a fool. But he wanted to reunite very badly. For six years! Anyway, after all that, he came back and left at the end of October then in December got DUI #4 and is still in jail but will get out next week and go live with her. I have not been in contact with him since December, when this happened. He relied on her for everything when he went to jail saying me and the kids would judge him. Like the other 3x when we stood by him? Anyway. What do I do now? Keep trying to heal? I have all the memories with me, and he has nothing to remind him of us. I am not throwing out my headboard he made for me or a lot of my furniture. He can start over a new life with her, but the kids are upset they got cut off, too. So I am in the middle, but not really because I am remaining in no contact at all. It's such a mess. I didn't want him for those 6 years but after he left me I wanted him. Do you think its just because of the competition?