DATING/RELATIONSHIPS

Why Dating Widowers on Match.com Was a Waste of My Valuable Time

Most of them are not looking for romance

Photo by Strauss Western on Unsplash

Online dating takes a brave soul.

This past year I had several poor experiences with widowers.

A widower from a close-by city messaged me on Match.com. He sounded great in his profile, so we met for lunch.

It had only been seven months since his wife died.

I thought that was not long enough to grieve, and I told him this.

Good impression #1

He assured me he was ready to commit to another relationship. He showed up with a bottle of wine and flowers.

My #1 dealbreaker is smoking, and he promised he didn’t.

Good impression #2

We planned dinner for a second date. Even though we lived 45 minutes apart, he insisted on always picking me up.

And I hate to drive.

Good impression #3

It was close to Christmas, so he brought me a live 3' tall potted pine tree and three pies from a famous bakery.