Why Dating Widowers on Match.com Was a Waste of My Valuable Time
Online dating takes a brave soul.
This past year I had several poor experiences with widowers.
A widower from a close-by city messaged me on Match.com. He sounded great in his profile, so we met for lunch.
It had only been seven months since his wife died.
I thought that was not long enough to grieve, and I told him this.
Good impression #1
He assured me he was ready to commit to another relationship. He showed up with a bottle of wine and flowers.
My #1 dealbreaker is smoking, and he promised he didn’t.
Good impression #2
We planned dinner for a second date. Even though we lived 45 minutes apart, he insisted on always picking me up.
And I hate to drive.
Good impression #3
It was close to Christmas, so he brought me a live 3' tall potted pine tree and three pies from a famous bakery.
He brought me a gift on every date.
He sent me three dozen (THREE DOZEN!) red roses, a teddy bear, and chocolates for Christmas.
He bought me a Sonos sound system for my house.
I like gifts.
Good Impression #4
He was great at making plans for dates, which is not my forte, so it was wonderful.
He arranged to attend concerts and theatre events.
I wanted to see Harry Connick, Jr., and he took me to his Christmas show.
He asked me about my favorite Caribbean Island, and when I said Aruba, he wanted to buy two tickets for me to take anyone I wanted as a birthday gift. (I’m sure he figured I would pick him).
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We went to his gorgeous home. It sat on a hillside with a creek and wildlife in the backyard. There was…