You are so wise! I'm afraid to change my hair, but I could style it differently and see. I don't know of any wine tastings around here, but there are wineries. I don't try. But my ex stopped communicating with me after he left last Sunday night, and I have no idea why. He is the main reason I don't get out there and try. I do not know why you need the oxygen, but you're right. God pulls off some big-time miracles for all of us. Sometimes I think He doesn't want me to find a man. BTW my ex and I had great sex, too! But then he became an alcoholic, and he was disgusting to me. So almost eight years of no sex.

As for my daughter, she cannot live with me. It's not allowed here. My condo is owned by the Life Plan Community I live in. I have complete control over how I live and care for it, but the rules here are if someone is going to live with you, they need to be 55 or older and eventually buy into the Life Plan too. That's one of the reasons I moved here. I felt this guilt about not inviting her to live with me, but I knew it would kill me. The two young kids and her and that fool going at it. Every time she goes back. Ugh... Just NO. He would kill us all. You could be a counselor. You have such healthy advice and think outside the box. Almost as if you know me very well and see my needs. I am sorry about your husband. I gathered from your poetry that he hurt you badly.