You may be right, Phyllis. I was so shocked when he left me just before he would get what he had begged for years with me. It was mind-bending, and I fell apart. I lost a lifelong friend but he did not seem to miss me. I have to face the reality he just stopped loving me and it was hard. Now, I have no desire to be with him and I see what a nightmare I could have entered. I am trying very hard to move on with a group not associated with him and her. That's key for me. I need to be removed from any knowledge of what he is doing. They deserve each other.