You're right, Vincent. But at first, a lot of things don't hit you. Getting to know each other is paramount at the beginning. It took me several months to realize I was getting to know his entire life, but he knew very little about mine. Then, I started to bust him when he redirected the conversation back to himself. Then, it became so blatant I wondered how I had missed it for so long. Now, I am super sensitive, and when he picks up on it, he asks if he made a mistake again! Again? You're a grown-ass man. You know damn well when you make a mistake! My ex needed a mother, and he found one he calls a girlfriend. I will not be the mommy to a grown man and correct him every time he makes a "mistake." I can stay single as long as I want. I won't give up my freedom without something great in return.